You might be the first contact she calls when she is feeling down.
How you react can make a big difference!
Words that Heal for Birth Professionals
You are not alone, you are not to blame, with help you will get better.
You are a good mother.
You guys are good parents.
You are doing this “right”.
All moms are tired, this is normal. You are not unusual.
You baby looks so attached to you!
There is a broad range of parenting practices that produce securely attached human beings.
You know, nobody goes it alone.
You are a good mother!
You are a good person going through a rough patch.
You know, nobody goes it alone. Maybe you can take a look online at some resources.Let me help you, you need professional help, it’s ok. Everyone needs help now & then, you are a good mother.
If you had diabetes, you would get help for that. It’s the same sort of thing, so there’s help available.
Getting help is not a sign of weakness, don’t wait it out, get help, you are not alone, there is no need to suffer.
Actions that Heal for Birth Professionals
Encourage the mother to increase self-care.
Encourage the father or a friend to organize
Encourage the mother to release self-blame and accept help.
Help mother get some sleep, give her a list of postpartum doula resources. It is worth it to spend the money to hire a postpartum doula to help with the night shift for a month or so.
If she is exhausted, assure there are many methods of raising a securely attached and emotionally health infant. There may be a way to compromise so she can get sleep.
Give her a referral list to professional treatment in your local area.