Posts Tagged ‘relationship counseling’
I was featured in an article in PsychCentral ! Take a look below and then mosey on over to PsychCentral to read the rest!
Complexity of Marriage Therapy, Part Three: Dr. Sue Johnson and Emotion Focused Therapy: Modifying Adult Attachment Patterns
Today we’ll examine some of the concepts of Dr. Sue Johnson’s work in relationship therapy. I draw heavily on her work as well Dr. Gottman’s work when conducting relationship sessions.
Today we’ll examine one aspect of Dr. John Gottman’s work. He provides clear, evidence-based information distilled from his many years of research about what predicts divorce.
He Wishes for the Cloths of Heaven
by William Butler Yeats
Had I the heaven’s embroidered cloths,
Enwrought with golden and silver light
Losing a baby through miscarriage or stillbirth leads causes an increase in suffering, including disbelief, grief, shock, denial, anger, sadness and anxiety. These strong and primal emotions can take a toll on your marriage relationship. Recent research published by Dr. Katherine Gold and her colleagues in the journal, Pediatrics, indicates that couples who experience miscarriage or stillbirth have a greater chance of divorce than couples who experience the live birth of a child.
Guest Post Today! Elly Taylor!
Today I have the honor of hosting Elly Taylor’s deeply felt and informative work. Elly discusses the slow emotional changes in her internal and marital emotional landscapes as she and her husband navigated the transition to parenthood, maturing together as individuals and as a couple. Elly Taylor is an Aussie! She is a relationship counsellor and the author of Becoming Us: Loving, Learning and Growing Together.
”Pets respond eagerly to care and attention, offering unconditional love and non-threatening touch…crucial human needs” (Walsh, 2009)
Mindbody practices have so many benefits, you’d have to order online from outside the US to be able to afford them- Read the research!
With so much talk about the expense of healthcare, I wanted to put out a positive message about inexpensive mindbody self-care practices. Self- care doesn’t have to be expensive. Self-care is an important component of postpartum depression treatment. Low cost mindbody therapies are helpful on many levels. Research strongly indicates complementary therapies improve health on multiple levels and in concrete ways and are low cost.
For four rewarding years, I ran the MindBody Program at the Cancer Center at a hospital. The program provided relief for people with the burden of chronic illness on emotional and physical levels. Research indicates persons with chronic illness, co-morbidity, aging-related illness and persons with mental illness, such as depression and anxiety, are among the most likely to use complementary therapies (Cheung, Wyman, and Halcon, 2007), so it was a good fit. Research such as that conducted by Ben-Ayre, Frankel, Klein, Scharf (2008) indicates patients expect their physicians to refer to appropriate complementary care clinics as needed. The MindBody Program was a forerunner of the integrative medicine trend.
You remember the intensity at the beginning of your relationship: you were enveloped in an intense, highly sexual relationship; finishing sentences for each other, craving his body against yours. You ate out when you felt like it, had fun cooking together, and spontaneously escaped to romantic getaways. A life of freedom and fun!
Then, you and your partner planned to start a family together! Baby sex was heavenly. No need for birth control. The primal feeling of making love to have offspring was intoxicating. And when you found you were pregnant! The excitement!
Perhaps you and your spouse or significant other
have been having problems for quite some time. Perhaps you are
discovering the person you thought you wanted to live with for the
rest of your life is not who you thought he or she is. Perhaps you
are confronting and dealing with infidelity or extreme anger issues.
Perhaps there is emotional and or verbal abuse, continual sarcasm
that you have been trying to deflect or manage, but you are finding
that is not working out so well. If there is physical abuse in your
relationship, you need to find a safe house as soon as possible and
take haven there. Go to a relative’s house, a friend’s house, or a
shelter if you need to hide from your abuser. Help is available.
If you are in a situation that is safe, and you have decided to
pursue couples therapy, then the next step is to look for a licensed
therapist and sort through the different personalities and therapies
in which they have training. There are so many types of couple
therapy out there, with differing names. It can be confusing to