Postpartum depression changed my life.
I let my postpartum depression go untreated for a long time after I gave birth and I shouldn’t have done that, I suffered needlessly and caused my husband to suffer needlessly. I did go to a therapist, who very kindly referred me to a female psychiatrist (over and over again!).But, I refused to go see this psychiatrist, as I was nursing my son. My nursing times with him were the best times of the day, it was soothing to relax, sit down, and just feel the love between us! And I did not want to expose him to any form of medication through my breastmilk, especially not daily antidepressants!
Back then, 17 years ago, there wasn’t much perer-reviewed research literature published regarding the risks and safety of different psychotropic medications for use during pregnancy and breastfeeding. Now, you can easily access accurate, succinct, and professional consumer information about pregnancy, breastfeeding and psychotropic medications on the Mother to Baby website , which is a website run by teratogen specialists. There is a mountain of information, plus free, live counseling with a teratogen specialist, that can help you make an informed decision with your doctor.
Both Sides Now
by Joni Mitchell
The dizzy dancing way you feel
As every fairy tale comes real
I’ve looked at love that way
Banish those negative feelings! Nurturing your connection is important. It’s important to connect positively every day! Research by John Gottman, Ph.D., the grandaddy of marriage counseling, shows that for every negative interaction, five positive ones are needed to compensate to keep up a positive balance of feelings. Happy, stable marriages naturally fall into the 5:1 ratio. The good news is you can consciously make an effort to happily tease your partner, be interested in what s/he has to say, or spontaneously burst into song and dance in the living room!
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Kathy’s interview with Robin follows.
Today we’ll examine some of the concepts of Dr. Sue Johnson’s work in relationship therapy. I draw heavily on her work as well Dr. Gottman’s work when conducting relationship sessions.
Losing a baby through miscarriage or stillbirth leads causes an increase in suffering, including disbelief, grief, shock, denial, anger, sadness and anxiety. These strong and primal emotions can take a toll on your marriage relationship. Recent research published by Dr. Katherine Gold and her colleagues in the journal, Pediatrics, indicates that couples who experience miscarriage or stillbirth have a greater chance of divorce than couples who experience the live birth of a child.
Guest Post Today! Elly Taylor!
Today I have the honor of hosting Elly Taylor’s deeply felt and informative work. Elly discusses the slow emotional changes in her internal and marital emotional landscapes as she and her husband navigated the transition to parenthood, maturing together as individuals and as a couple. Elly Taylor is an Aussie! She is a relationship counsellor and the author of Becoming Us: Loving, Learning and Growing Together.
Behind the Scenes
Spotlight: Suzanne Swanson, Ph.D.
Biography: Suzanne Swanson, Ph.D., is an activist in many areas of Maternal Mental Health. Since 2006, she has been the Postpartum Support International (PSI) Minnesota Coordinator. By 2007, along with a collective group of perinatal mental health professionals, she helped form the Pregnancy and Postpartum Support of Minnesota (PPSM) organization. Suzanne also serves on the board for Prevention and Treatment of Traumatic Childbirth (PATTCh), an organization that helps bridge the birth and mental health worlds.
”Positive feeling systems must be built and maintained intentionally (as part of couples therapy or marriage therapy)…” Gottman and Gottman, 2009)