Posts Tagged ‘Gottman Method’

Banish those negative feelings! Nurturing your connection is important. It’s important to connect positively every day! Research by John Gottman, Ph.D.,  the grandaddy of  marriage counseling, shows that for every negative interaction, five positive ones are needed to compensate to keep up a positive balance of feelings.  Happy, stable marriages naturally fall into the 5:1 ratio. The good news is you can consciously make an effort to happily tease your partner, be interested in what s/he has to say, or spontaneously burst into song and dance in the living room!

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Marriage
Therapies Explained

Perhaps you and your spouse or significant other
have been having problems for quite some time. Perhaps you are
discovering the person you thought you wanted to live with for the
rest of your life is not who you thought he or she is. Perhaps you
are confronting and dealing with infidelity or extreme anger issues.
Perhaps there is emotional and or verbal abuse, continual sarcasm
that you have been trying to deflect or manage, but you are finding
that is not working out so well. If there is physical abuse in your
relationship, you need to find a safe house as soon as possible and
take haven there. Go to a relative’s house, a friend’s house, or a
shelter if you need to hide from your abuser. Help is available.

If you are in a situation that is safe, and you have decided to
pursue couples therapy, then the next step is to look for a licensed
therapist and sort through the different personalities and therapies
in which they have training. There are so many types of couple
therapy out there, with differing names. It can be confusing to
choose!

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