Depression and the Symptom of Black & White Thinking
If you suffer from untreated depression, you may feel lonely and isolated. You may think and feel like everyone else (except you) is surrounded by a group of friends and family. The intense loneliness can feel crushing and all-consuming. You might doubt your value as a human being, as a person. As someone who has suffered from depression, I know is a valiant fight, battle after battle, for self esteem and self-worth.
Today I’m participating in Cristi Motto Comes of Motherhood Unadorned in her World Suicide Prevention Day Blog Event for the week of September 10th. I’m also participating in Kathy Benson’s Bereaved and Blessed’s Time Warp Tuesday theme, Learning. I wanted to honor Kathy and also to honor my friend, Cristi for their work in helping and bringing people together.
Learning about Suicide Prevention
Many people in my psychotherapy practice struggle with coming to terms with childhood sexual abuse. Flashes of their silent past and the effects of the splitting of the self in order to survive, intrude on their present day life, so they come for support. I’m humbled to witness their heroic, creative work through their inner labyrinth of pain and love gradually towards integration and wholeness.
Creating with your hands is a wonderful way to enter into the experience of the essential flow state. To be fully immersed in flow state is to be so absorbed in your task that you lose self-consciousness, your emotions are positively engaged and and you experience deep satisfaction. Developing a hobby is a good way to define a sense of self around positive experiences, outside of depression, postpartum depression and anxiety.
Mom’s voice is perfection to her baby
Today I am pleased to have Matt Logan, MA, MT-BC, a board-certified music therapist, offer a guest post about the enhancing effects of music for the mother-baby relationship. Matt writes knowledgeably about the positive effects of music on our emotions and physiology. He works as a music therapist at a children’s hospital in Oakland, California., with kids of all ages and backgrounds and he loves this work! He runs two websites: A Perfect Lullaby and Music Therapy Source.
Be kind to yourself today.
Affirmations by themselves are not all that need to do to enact change within yourself, but are a wonderful enhancement to positive self-development.
Positive parenting and feeling well and confident take conscious, daily effort. The conscious processing of perceived hurts and events helps clear out old habits, making way for new thoughts and ways of being.
Pursuing the development of the self and being gently and consciously present is an organic, life-long path. There are numerous proactive ways to develop a deep knowing and confidence about yourself.
Self-awareness and self-knowledge is enhanced and developed through counseling and mindbody methods such as yoga, meditation, energy work, expressive art. Putting in the effort to identifying a satisfying career and working steadily at all aspects of the work (people skills, technical skills) is a a grand way to open and stretch the inner self. Developing the capacity for compassion and understanding for others is a lifelong organic process as well that is self-enhancing.
Affirmations are just one way to help reset your inner chatter with positive negative self-talk. . Affirmations are positive statements about the self and everyday life. If used daily and consistently, for at least a month, affirmation can build a positive mind-set, helping overcome any negative tapes you can reeling your head. Below are some positive affirmations to help you feel better about yourself, freeing you to take positive action.
I am a good mother.
I have a deep well of patience within.
Time is abundant; I have an abundance of time for myself and my family.
Love is abundant: I have an abundance of love for myself and my family
I co-create a beautiful family with the universal spirit.
I am relaxed and confident in my everyday life.
I understand and ask for what I need and want in a positive way.
My thoughts support and strengthen my positive parenting style.
I breathe deeply and respond with clarity.
My family is safe.
I am able to cope with grace.
Prenatal Yoga: A Mindbody Practice to Benefit Your Pregnancy
As a pregnant woman looking looking for a safe, mindbody, self-help way to improve your comfort levels and shorten your birthing time, check out prenatal yoga! Check out the results of this study!