Small Everyday Pleasures Make a Big Difference

How effective are everyday stress management techniques in helping keep a person healthy? How strongly do everyday happy events affect you? One study indicates that a small pleasant everyday event boosts the immune system for two days, while a small, everyday stressful event depresses the immune system for about a day.

At Stonybrook University, Dr. Arthur Stone, a psychologist, conducted a research study with about 100 men. He measured the effects of fun get togethers with friends an family on the immune system. Dr, Stone found that the uplifting effects of a social gathering on Monday will last until Wednesday, But a stressful event, such as being criticized at work, will negatively affect the immune system for only a day.

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Valentine’s Day Relationship Skill: Both Sides Now

Both Sides Now 

by Joni Mitchell

Moons and Junes and ferris wheels
The dizzy dancing way you feel
As every fairy tale comes real
I’ve looked at love that way

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Aromatherapy – DIY Soothing Cold Away Salve

Clinical Aromatherapy

One of my life long hobbies is studying healing plants in the form of herbals, essential oils and flower essences.  I studied for my aromatherapy certification in 2014 with Liz Fulcher at her Aromatic Wisdom Institute in Pennsylvania. It was a wonderful course and she mentored me further into the secret life of plants. I discovered a whole network of wise women working with plant secrets. It was a great experience.

Anyway, here’s a recipe for a soothing congestion salve to help open up stuffed nasal passages I made for a friend who has three little ones who often get sick all at once, passing it around to each other!

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Valentine’s Day DIY Romantic Body Massage Oil

Banish those negative feelings! Nurturing your connection is important. It’s important to connect positively every day! Research by John Gottman, Ph.D.,  the grandaddy of  marriage counseling, shows that for every negative interaction, five positive ones are needed to compensate to keep up a positive balance of feelings.  Happy, stable marriages naturally fall into the 5:1 ratio. The good news is you can consciously make an effort to happily tease your partner, be interested in what s/he has to say, or spontaneously burst into song and dance in the living room!

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EMDR: Tapping in for Self Healing a Broken Heart

(IStock) EMDR Healing a Broken Heart

 

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a well researched therapy used to treat trauma and strong emotional states.  There are several components to EMDR.

Identify Positive Emotional Resources

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DBT Skill: Learn to Distract Yourself from Negative Thoughts, Behaviors, Feelings

A definition and overview of DBT’s Distress Tolerance can be found here.

So, the basic foundation of DBT is to think about the idea that pain and suffering are part of life and can’t be avoided or removed. And learning to detach from the situation and not add more pain by judging yourself and others for what is.

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Boost Your New Year Vision Energy with 5 Flower Essences

 

As you look at this picture, how do you feel when you look at its mix of colors and the idea of the softness of the plant petals and leaves? Numerous feelings about the beauty and sweetness of the plants and positivity of growth can be identified.  Flower essences connect with us on an energetic level; they have a different action than essential oils and herbals, which function more on a physical level; their molecular actions can be studied and measured in clinical studies.

But flower essences work on a vibrational level. Each flower essence has the vibrational pattern of the original plant. Flower essences are useful for shifting emotional states towards balance.  Flower essence practitioners believe there’s a flower essence for every feeling and mood.

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Expressive Art – Creating My 2018 Vision Board

I use my Vision Board process to move myself away from magical thinking.  I don’t believe if you think it, it’s will be so. Envisioning followed by long periods of hard work and persistence is what propels me towards my goals.

Yes, I love setting intention and using visualization, but I use a Vision Board to move me away from intentions and towards concrete steps on my yearly plan.  The Vision Board process helps me clarify what I want to work on in the coming year, what there is room for, and then I pair this process to a plan in my calendar.

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Mindfulness Everyday – Serenity Meditation

Sit or lie down in a comfortable position. Close your eyes, quiet your thoughts. Sometimes when you’re just beginning mindfulness practice, your mind isn’t used to being quiet. Your mind has lots of thoughts rushing in.  Just imagine them as waves moving about. Be gentle with yourself. It takes time to habituate  your mind to calmness, just as it takes time to build a muscle at the gym.

Imagine being in a peaceful place.  It could be a place you know or one from your wonderful imagination. Be aware of the sounds around you. Sounds can be distracting when we try to block them out, so acknowledge the sounds and be at peace with them. Visualize any cares or worries gently drifting away.

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New Year, New Dreams: Eight Keys to Successful Therapy Plus the Bonus Key

When I was in therapy, I was always curious about what techniques were behind my therapists work. I read alot about different psychotherapeutic approaches. I wondered if she knew what was best for me, or should I try some other things?

I had these questions in mind when I  began to study psychotherapy.  Which therapies work best as there are alot of techniques out there!  Which therapy approach would work best for my clients? How could I know what I studied was the best I could offer to my clients? And my clients ask me to differentiate between the therapies as well.

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